What will u do if your friend is going for a trip with her boy friend for 2, 3 days to some other places..A good question from the program Midukki which is telecasted in the channel Mazhavil manorama on 23/02/2013.
A good question ..
First let me share my answer..
If am a school student ..I will never support her..never say no..because I never think about the consequences.If am a college student, I think I will support her, ..if I know the guy with whom shes going..but I wont take any risk..but will never inform her parents..
If am working, I will ask about all the details of the trip..and if I think shes safe I will support..or else I never bother.
If am a mother, I will definetly say NO..dats for sure..and will inform to her parents..
My husbands answer:
oh..I never bother..because shes not ma sis, not ma relative, not ma wife..let her do watever she like..I dont care..this is what my husband answerd..
To love a person and to go a trip..its not a big deal..if they trust each other means its good..but in most of the cases the word trust is seen meaningless..
Earlier days Boys always cheat girls..but nowadays I think Girls are also cheating boys..going a trip..sharing a room..its not a big deal for girls..most of d girls dont care in doing so..if she trust d guy means.k...not ok..still..but one thing we need to think is..if it ends up in marriage ,its good..or else...its all a time pass..the both boy and girl will marry someone else..
Earlir days Boys propose girls..but now no shame for girls to propose a boy..they are ready for anything..
Its quite natural to fall in love, as a girl I too hav loved..but was always conciouss of ma security..and hav not even taken a single snap.so I never say, to fall in love is not bad ..it wil happen in eveyones life..but as a girl I think we must b concious of certain things..thats all..
( those who r reading this may think about ma love..wat might hav happened to ma love and all) ..Dont worry..ma husband knows all ...hehe..chumma ...school life, college life..all a grt fun..thats all..not serious at all..
Wen I was working in cochin,I have seen girls girls going with their boy friends for a trip by telling to their parents that they r going for training to some other places..even one of ma room mate have gone like that..she is very small girl ..just a Btech pass out..she use to share a lot of things in room..we all hear wat she says..but I never passed any comments..because am very busy with ma own problems and ma life..I never interfered in any of her matters..I think they r in d world of fantasy..but hav said no to many of ma best frnds..
If going a trip with a guy means ok..if they trust each other, but if something happens in between that of the trip(like an accident,or attack by strangers), hw r they going to face..if d boy misbehaves,hwz she gng to react? shes alone,..we cant predict the intensions of the guy..so better b safe always..always think about our safety..
Its all before marriage..after marriage Cheating happens from both Boys and girls side..
After marriage many husband and wife r cheating each other ..I hav a direct experience..the story goes like this...one of ma cousin brother got a friend from orkut..and shes working in a famous BPO company (the name of the company starts with S) at Cochin ..they became friends..and she wanna to meet ma brother..shes married and her husband is in miltary..my brother went to meet her in cochin..she told shes in frustation and lot of sad stories..and I know she always chat with ma brother,call him always.she always want to meet ma brother..I know only this much..the rest of the stories ma cousin brother hav not shared..he told me all these are happening without her husbands permission..husband dont know anything..I scolded ma brother a lot..but wat he said is..""" edeee njan vilikarilla..aval enne eppozhum vilikkukayaa..njan entha cheyukaa..am a boy know.."""
So earlier days boys cheated girls..now girls too started.But am completely against this..before marriage love,or having an ice cream together.its all ok..upto certain limit..but sharing a room,gng a trip ..its is all unfair..but after marriage..without husbands permission its bad..because once we r married means..we must b loyal to each other..orelse we should not go for a family life..its all ma views am sharing here..so both husband and wife must b loyal to each other..
MY LIFE :
Before marriage my husband hav invited me to go for a small trip..but I said no..I dont know why I said no..but I said it.Thank God for making me to say no at that time..hehe ....the only places where we went was to palarivattom temple, kaloor church, chottanikara temple and from railway station to hostel,or to office..
After marriage I always torture him by saying something about his past..bla bla bla...I am like a king at that time..no words for him..I will keep on irritating him.Why, what, why did u do that..and so many questions...that is a fun for me...just to irritate him..
And one day he answered me,Am a boy and if a girl is ready for anything why should I turn back..also before marriage u being a girl u came with me in ma car, u allowed me to kiss u..r u a girl..??? I was like OOpzzz...but I never gave up..I gave some answers for him like we r engaged at that time, thats y I allowed..and gave some more answers which I know is meaningless...
so girls always take care of yourselves..GUYS ARE ALWAYS GUYZzzz...........
TRAGIC STORIES :
SURYANELLI CASE :
A 16 year old girl has been sexually harassed for 40 days by 42 men..and it happend a long years back..in 1996..And a well known politician P J Kurians name is also heard along with that....to hear the name of the person sitting in the top positions is not fair..but it happened..those who r responsible to take cr of their country or their state is irresponsible..a women is not safe anywhere...A bus conductor have black mailed her by showing nude pictures and with fear she went along with the conductor.atlast the story ends up in tragedy..the girl lost her life, her parents r suffering a lot..who is there to support her.she alone hav to face all these..she was innocent..but now shes is helpless..supreme court, high court..all r there to punish the persons, but who is there to suffer her feelings and sorrows..she alone have to face everyhing..
DELHI GANG RAPE CASE :
In December 2012 at Delhi ...a 23 year old girl was raped by 6 men while she was returing home after waching a movie with her male companion..the rape was so tragic..dont want to explain it more..and d girl died after 13 days of treatment..who is there to take responsibilities for all these..the court will surly punish those 6 men who where involved in the rape..but the parents lost her daughter and the girl lost her life..
In my opinion the punishment for rapist must be death...
In all these cases, the only one who suffered is Girls..and their parents..In the above two cases the two girls were innocent..still they sufffered a lot..they lost their life..
So Girls always be conciouss..I am not against love..but girls b conciouss about your safety..never go for a trip,never go to the guys home, never go to their friends home..always try to meet in public places..once you marry hes gonna to b with u always..
But if a girl is ready for anything or everything..U please carry on..nobody can help u..
I have read an interview of Kamal hassan (film actor)..who said that ..the love happening at the teenage is not love..its only a sexual attraction..or an infactuation..
Am not against boys and am not against love..because I know lot of good guys who have married their girl friends and living happily ..lot of ma friends hav married their lovers..and at the same time hav met lot of fake lovers.
So both boys and girls..always b conciouss..Especially girls need to b more conciouss..because boys have nothing to loose..
